Humping & Grinding involves rubbing your genitals against something and it can provide intense pleasure and, for many individuals, is a reliable path to orgasm.
Rubbing a vulva against something - a pillow, a partner’s thigh, the corner of the sofa—is incredibly pleasurable. For many, it’s how we were first introduced to (and continue to enjoy) the wild world of orgasms. For others, grinding and humping is a necessary part of foreplay.
For many of us, grinding and dry humping also often play a central role in many people’s early explorations with partnered sex as they present no risk of pregnancy, a reduced risk of STI transmission, and do not necessarily even require clothes to be taken off.
While some might think humping is simply a sex act for horny high-schoolers, most of us have matured and recognize that sex can and does include grinding for a good time. Folks who get off by grinding really know just how magical friction can be in the bedroom. However, grinders might want to add a bit of variety to their masturbation session.
Hump Toys
Hump toys are external sex toys crafted for the purpose of rubbing against your genitals. While they are usually designed with pleasure for vulvas and clitorises in mind, many of them can also be enjoyed by individuals with a penis.
They come in various forms. Some feature a hole, allowing them to be worn around a penis or dildo during penetrative sex, providing additional clitoral stimulation—often essential for many individuals with vulvas to reach orgasm.
Other hump toys are equipped with straps for attachment to surfaces or body parts, offering diverse possibilities. This ranges from adding extra stimulation while grinding against a partner to transforming a regular household surface into a makeshift sex toy. Check out The Knee Thing Lap Strap Harness
Many hump toys boast different textures, offering a variety of sensations and intensity levels. They may include ridges, bumps, waves, bubbles, soft spikes, and more. Additionally, some hump toys incorporate vibration.
How to use hump toys?
Sex toys possess the delightful quality of flexibility—while designed with a particular purpose in mind, there's no strict rulebook. As long as you prioritize safety and have consent from all parties involved, feel free to use your toys in any way that brings pleasure!
Hump toys, with their wonderful versatility, provide a vast array of options for individuals, whether single or in a partnership, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity. The possibilities extend across the spectrum of gender and sexual diversity.
Best positions to grind: Explore your own path to orgasm and be creative with it.
Cowgirl grind: Classic one, on top of your pillows in bed. This best imitates riding on a partner, except you can focus on the external stimulation and don’t have to go for vaginal penetration
Chair support: Good for eliminating leg strain, comfortable chair with narrower middle required. Wrap your legs around the chair and rock back and forth or any other moves that you’ve already unlocked. Try the Shagger Grinding Toy
Lazy queen: Lying down in bed, back propped up by pillows, grinder underneath. Minimal effort humping, barely rocking your hips; works great with a strong vibrator, we recommend the HoT Black Magic Wand.
Stroke it: Rubbing-off clitoral masturbation is a form of grinding sex. I truly love the wrist-and-arm motion of “jerking off” clitorally: Lie back in bed, while gripping a sex toy and stroking it up-and-down your vulva. This way, you can finely adjust the pressure and speed. Any toy can be a grinder toy this way, but easiest are toys that have a compact, grippable handle like the flat top mushroom mini vibe
MW, bound. “Harness” a Magic Wand so you can sit on top, making it a grinder toy. Either (a) twist a soft fabric scarf around the wand’s neck, then double-knot the scarf-ends behind a propped-up or (b) buy the knee thing harness
Underwear grind: Honestly a new one for me, as I’ve finally found a soft-silicone grinding vibrator that it’s comfortable to mash my bits against. Place it inside your underwear… then sit on a padded chair, and rock your hips so your clit is grinding into the lay-on vibrator.