There is an energy exchange that is happening when you have sex with someone

You don’t need to be an empath to absorb the emotions/energies of the person that you’re intimate with. We usually take this energy on without even noticing. Because we are in a vulnerable state, riding such wild, sometimes animalistic energy, and letting go of our barriers, it’s easy for our partner’s energy to transfer into our space and ours into theirs.

There are electromagnetic fields around our brain and our heart that transmit information about how we think and feel. If we are not only next to someone, but also naked and inside of them, that transmitted energy is amplified.

If we have sex with someone else (or multiple people), we are allowing them into our energetic space. Before, during, and after we can feel energetic and emotional shifts depending on our partners’ energies. If we don’t manage or protect our sexual energy, the energetic exchange can stick with us for a long time and impact the way we view our own sexuality.

For example, if we felt empowered, sexy, free, liberated, and then had sex with someone who doesn’t respect you, you could start to feel negatively about yourself or energetically drained or hungover afterwards, when that energy wasn’t even yours to begin with.

Our responsibility in sexual safety doesn’t end with physical protection, we need energetic and emotional safety too.

Before and after it’s important to clear our energetic space whether that’s through meditation, spending time in nature, taking a bath, using crystals, exercising, whatever clears your energy and helps you ground your space. Clearing your energy doesn’t mean that you’re getting rid of them in physical form, it just means that their energy isn’t weighing on you as heavily. This is also important for sex workers in person or online sex creators. The world is filled with people who don’t honor and respect their work, and that energy can easily infiltrate their mind, body, and spirit. It’s important to separate from these thoughts, energies, and opinions that are not authentic to our personal beliefs. 

Reclaiming your energy allows for ownership of your space and pushes other unwanted energies out.

Release it: A quick release of sexual energy can help with sexual frustration. You can try masturbating or using sex toys. Masturbation is a great way to bring your sexual body back in alignment. When we explore our bodies without pressure or other people in the room, we allow a reconnection back to how we authentically feel sexy — not to please someone else.

Distract yourself: Try to channel your energy elsewhere by distracting your mind with physical exercise or an absorbing task. 

Practice deep breathing: Deep breathing can help you retain and recirculate sexual energy throughout your body. 

Be self-aware: Being mindful of your body can help you notice what drives your deepest desires. Connecting with our sexual energy involves a high level of self-awareness and authenticity that’s accessed through mindfulness, acceptance, intentionality, and being attuned to our body, emotions and partners.

Have an orgasm: Orgasms can release feel-good hormones, increase lymphatic system movement, and help detoxify your body. They can also help clear up relationship and sexual energy blockages